See, I read something ages ago that said that the way siblings interact in the early years is hugely indicative of how their future relationship will pan out. "Got this!" I thought, as I watched a very young John Paul snuggle baby Cecilia, watching a newly-mobile Cecilia crawl after John Paul and lick him repeatedly while he giggled, watched the two of them sit quietly in a "reading nook" corner while he read books to her...
But then, see, Cecilia started having an opinion about things. And showed herself to be just as stubborn as John Paul, if not more so. And given that these two were born of two of the most stubborn people on the planet, I suppose it shouldn't surprise me that I'm playing referee to the two opposing sides for most of the day ever day, right?
I mean, don't get me wrong, when they play together well they play really well. I'm talking hours in their room playing Magic School Bus, or going to the basement for quiet hours to play board games (and clean them up. Seriously, they went through Cranium, Diplomacy, and Stratego yesterday and cleaned it all up).
|See? Best friends!|
And of course, you add twins to the mix? Too cute to resist.
John Paul is quietly playing the piano. Cecilia is setting up a bed on the floor with a couch pillow and a fleece blanket, only to realize that Elizabeth has thrown her whole body on the pillow.
"Ewizabif! Dat's my bed! I'll make you your OWN bed!"
She runs off and gives Elizabeth a new pillow and blanket, then lies down again only to find Mary Claire is sitting directly next to her on the pillow...
"May Cwaire! You're my guardian angel!!!"
And thus begins the game in which Cecilia runs away from her "guardian angels" and tells them to "Get back to heaven!!!" Giggling everywhere, including from the adults in the room. Seriously, the frantically giggling and running and falling toddlers? It's really too much.
|Cooperation at its finest|
We can't get used to that kind of harmony, now can we?
Within minutes John Paul and Cecilia have been banished from the basement for doing something stupid, and I'm trying to get them to play together in their room so that I can make dinner in relative peace.
3 minutes of quiet and someone's wailing.
I return to find that they're fighting over who gets to throw the pink ball in the laundry basket.
Insert lecture on taking turns and sharing.
5 minutes later, I return to wailing and find them on the floor, tangled up in Cecilia's sheet, fighting over who gets to play with it.
A sheet. Yes, they were fighting over a sheet. And then John Paul stood up and he was sitting on his own sheet.
I couldn't make this up if I tried.
2.5 minutes later, Cecilia comes running into the kitchen because "JOHN PAUL PUNCHED ME!"
"Why did he punch you?"
"Because I was tryin' to leave and I said I wouldn't pway wif him."
John Paul comes running in yelling...
"John Paul! Did you punch your sister?"
"Yes, because she wanted to leave and I wanted to play with her!!!"
So John Paul is sent to his room for a time out and within a minute Cecilia is running back in there to play with him and wailing ensues yet again...
At this point I just separated both of them to different rooms for quiet time, but really? How long is this going to go on? I'm thinking years...
|This is like, 8 months ago. See, no crying!|
The thing is, when they are good they are so very very good and so independent and so wonderful and lovely. But when they're bad? Oh they sure are horrid.
|See? So cute? So loving!|
So I'm thinking it's time to find that "Siblings Without Rivalry" book I started reading and then abandoned and maaaaybe try to learn from it again? Because I feel like all I'm doing right now is babysitting and refereeing, and there's not a whole lot of mothering going on... And surely there's something I can do to fix this a little bit, right?
Because really, the fact that while he was praying evening prayer he kept kicking her (she was yell-singing "AL-LE-LU-YAAAAAAAAAAAA, AAA-LE-LU-PAAAAAAAASTAAAAAAAA, NOODLE NOODLE NOODLE!!!" when he was just trying to pray!) shouldn't be indicative of their future relationship, should it?
Make me feel better? Tell me some ridiculous stories about your kids or about you and your siblings? I know mine aren't the only ones who fight this way!
|Is it terrible that I just want them to be like this all the time?|